I don't normally respond to this sort of comment but I think it would be a terrible shame if we put off someone new to birding. I'm guessing that most of us on here started off having the "easy" birds identified for us by friends or relatives (my dad in my case) then at some point decided it was so rewarding that we should get a decent bird book and ID them for ourselves. The OP even stated that they had given up their searches so they are making an effort. We all start somewhere and encouraging beginners can only be a good thing.
Having said that, bird books are great things to own. If you're in the UK and only own one bird book I would think everyone would agree that the Collins Bird Guide (
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Collins-Bird-Guide-Lars-Svensson/dp/0007268149) is the one to have though I would love to find out that there's an even better one!
Michael