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Message: <blockquote data-quote="ColinD" data-source="post: 1375989" data-attributes="member: 55409">Your partners only a hinderance if you let them be. I think that attitude and confidence are the hinderance. If you have complete confidence in your partner, why would you be upset if they wanted to do their own thing once in a while? Yet I know plenty of people who have been completely stiffled by their partner, to the extent that they give up their hobby. In my opinion that's not healthy, and breeds resentment. At some stage that resentment will come to the surface and be used as a weapon.What I've found interesting in this thread is the number of people who say that their relationship is more important than birding. That's easy to say, and on the face of it may appear to be clear cut. But if you were forced to chose between birding and your relationship, and if birding had been your way of life for decades, ingrained on your personality, since you were a young child, and was the main thing you focused on in your free time, what does it say about your relationship if your partner was to make you chose? I honestly think that if that choice was given to me, I would be so disappointed in my wife in having so little respect for my feelings and opinions, that I would probably chose birding.</blockquote>